I am a single mom. No one grows up saying, "I want to be a single mom when I grow up". But, sometimes along life’s way it happens. There are many bumps and bends in the road of a persons life and this just happens to be one of mine. I suppose that makes it sound like a disease or something really bad, quite the contrary. I love this time in my life, I have found myself and created a relationship with my kids that is beyond measure. Now, this single mom thing isn’t for everyone! Those women that have to have a man around or are scared of noises in the night or a clogged toilet need not apply! Being in this position a girl has to learn to take control and be able to conquer whatever comes her way. We become plumbers, carpenters, grounds keepers and whatever other odd job that happens along. We learn to do things we thought we would never have to do.
In years past it was thought that a woman should stay home cook, clean and take care of children. Well today, more than in years past I would assume, that is totally not the case. Now, often times, women add work and sometimes school to these duties. We are more independent and more driven to do more than just be a house wife and mom. We want careers and make goals for ourselves. I am proud to teach my kids that no matter what comes your way there is always a way to improve ourselves, to meet these goals we set.
I’m not taking anything away from the stay at mom types, that’s great for some, but add a few more "to do’s" to that list and see how you feel at the end of the day. Maybe that’s said out of jealousy or resentment or a deep want to be that mom.......yeah it’s not!! I love the fact that I can get out into the world and show people I can do this, I am strong, I am me, and I will kick butt! I also love the fact that I am teaching my children to depend on themselves for what they need and want. Don’t ask for anything in life, tell yourself you want it and go get it, make it happen.
As a working mom one of my pet peeves is laziness. It seems our government these days will reward people for not wanting to work. They can stay home and get checks in the mail for doing absolutely nothing. I totally agree that sometimes people need help and have hard times, most of us have seen hard times! But to make a career of this is so appalling to me. I don’t ask for any assistance from anyone, I work for what I have. So, to all the working single moms out there, ROCK ON sisters! Reach for the stars and keep your dreams and goals alive!
I really liked this blog. I was once a single mom and it was very difficult, but yet fun! I made the most of it that could. I went to school and took classes, and I worked part time. A lot of people used to say that I didn't take care of my son and wasn't a good mother. Well that was so wrong, because I had classes during the day, came home to my son, then worked some nights, and then repeat it all over again for 2 years. Then I finally got a good paying job in Bloomington. I am married and happy and I couldn't ask for anything more. I am very proud of you and your right, all single moms need to keep their head up and keep striving to teach their children and take care of them. Good blog Rachel.
ReplyDeleteI was raised by a single mom but she only had one child, so I could only imagine what it would be like having two (even financially.) Sometimes it's hard working a full time job and finding childcare but school is kinda convenient. For a while my mom worked the night shift which made it so that I didn't see her often, which was strange considering the only time I would be awake was after school when she left for work and when I got up in the morning.
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